when chal­lenges arise

-- May 14th, 2013 --
blue flower

Per­spec­tive.

It’s hard to get sometimes.

Just ordi­nary daily life some­times can seem to be quite enough to be going with: the quo­ti­dien tasks of sort­ing out Lost Prop­erty at school, look­ing after my social work fam­ily, ring­ing my bells and try­ing to keep inter­est­ing food on the table feels like a full plate.  Feed­ing 30 Lost Prop­erty ladies on a beau­ti­ful, sunny, warm spring day is the icing on the cake.

And then just to mix things up, life throws you a curve ball.  This time around, it came to me in a text from John.

Do you want the good news or the bad news?”

The bad news, please.”

Our land­lords are com­ing back from Swe­den and they want the house.”

Our house, that is.  Except that it isn’t.

It’s much nicer to own your home, as it turns out.  We’ve rented many apart­ments and houses in our day, and we’ve owned a cou­ple too, and I can tell you that the phone call from real estate agents telling you you’ve got to uproot your lives is one you really don’t want to get.  Espe­cially with the gar­den in a state of love­li­ness and peace.

So ordi­nary life, which had until then seemed like plenty, gets shoved aside to be replaced by the famil­iar hunt (by John) for places to view, the trips around var­i­ous neigh­bor­hoods, ana­lyz­ing the prox­im­ity to pub­lic trans­port, food shops, walk­ing into strange houses and try­ing to pic­ture our fur­ni­ture, books, art and cats in the places of other people’s lives.

It’s time sud­denly to pack up the cats into their kitty pris­ons and drag them, their voices raised in woe, to the vet for the vac­ci­na­tions that will allow them to stay in their kitty hotel for the dura­tion of the movers’ work.  They don’t like mov­ing any more than we do.

Time to drag through my mem­ory for the names of the art hanger, the book­shelf instal­la­tion peo­ple, the car­pet clean­ers.  Time to weigh the rel­a­tive mer­its of being close to Avery’s school in a not-nice house, or being far­ther away in a nice house.

If this house were clean, if the car­pets were clean, it would look so much nicer.”

Yes, and if there weren’t mir­rors behind all the book­shelves and there wasn’t water dam­age to the floor and all that cal­cium dam­age to the bath­room faucets…”

The nice house won!

Then it’s time to start get­ting cau­tiously excited about start­ing fresh.  Where will the sofa fit, and the long din­ing room table?  Which will be Avery’s room and which the guest room? Will…