I’m in yet another airport. Headed home.
Where IS home?
Two weeks ago I left London — home — to begin my American Summer 2015 road trip, only the road trip was in the air. London, Detroit, Indianapolis, Detroit, Cedar Rapids, Detroit, JFK. All places that take me home, really (except for Detroit, which I’m sorry to say must be home to somebody but to me it’s an airport, pure and simple).
I’ll tell you all this in loving detail when I’m safely in London, but suffice to say that Indiana was superb…
I spent time with so many people I love.
And then I went to Iowa, a place truly beloved to me, filled with brilliant people.
Of course Red Gate Farm is “home.”
And so are other other important bits of Connecticut.
There were dear friends.
New York City. Need I say…
Once again, we’re in London for the month of July, and what a parade of festivities there has been! Most elaborate of all, of course, is Barnes Fair, which has grown (from what I hear from long-time natives) from a couple of trestle tables selling Pimms and lemon curd, to a full-blown extravaganza that draws thousands of visitors from all over southwest London. And we had the perfect day for it.
and then welcome the General Public to climb the 75 treacherously narrow treads of our Tower steps to the very top, there to be offered beautiful views of Barnes, Richmond and even further afield.
To think that there were people standing in that spot, gazing at fields and trees, 800 years ago!
Someone had to sit in the clock room, too, to make sure no naughty visitors tugged on ropes or otherwise disturbed all the delicate mechanisms of our belltower. The Victorian clock workings are just beautiful.
And the view from the clock room, through the trap door, down into my precious ringing chamber… a new perspective!
Of course part of the fun of being on the Tower Team is the walky-talky. “Sending four people up to you, Kristen,” says Charles cracklingly. “Copy that, Charles, I will welcome them. Over.”
I sat in the humid, stale clock room, smelling of bell ropes and old wood, listening to the visitors tramping up and down the belltower steps, listening to the cheerful chatter through the trap door. How I LOVE every moment I spend in this quiet village church, being a peaceful part of a ritual and community that seems not to have changed for 100 years.
There was much fuss over the main event of Open Tower Day: the Teddy Bears’ Parachuting. It wasn’t easy for Curate Ann and Freya’s mum to sort out the rope pulley, for one thing.
But eventually all was ready for the £1-per-teddy adventure!
Of course the Teddies’ Adventures in Space went extremely well, after all this preparation. Ann launched them on their journeys.
Some fell onto the roofline and had to be rescued with long poles, by Vicar Richard. Some had less perilous journeys.
Flying down past the ancient tower…
Into adoring hands…
Everyone below was suspended in anticipation.
The crowds grew!
I sat in the bell chamber selling tickets, attaching “Tower Tour” necklaces to everyone so we could keep track of who was where. My good friend Colin was a stalwart helper, as always.
To tell you the absolute truth, I was very brave even to be IN the bell chamber after last weekend’s small accident. How on earth am I in the position to teach anyone anything? I really shouldn’t be. When one sweet learner lost control of her rope, I struggled to know what to do. I grabbed for the first bit of the rope I saw — the brightly colored, fluffy sally! I’m sorry to tell you I forgot what would happen to me if I did, even though the results are memoralised in leaded glass in the tower.
I simply flew into the air, perhaps four or five feet above ground, with that damned sally in my hand. Of course what the lovely glass image doesn’t show you is the sprained two knuckles of my right hand, and my sore left shoulder. What an idiot! We all gathered around Eddie for a much-needed basic lesson in “grab the TAIL” in an emergency. I’m still paying for it all in a sore right set of knuckles.
Avery and John joined me for a late-afternoon walk around the Fair, after my Tower responsibilities were over. The weather was perfect, the popcorn delectable.
This vision of Barnes Pond by late afternoon belies the chaos of the day.
I absolutely could not resist this particular sight, within the controlled bustle of my friend Trisha’s Annual Bike Sale, held in the churchyard. How the dead must have rejoiced! I would.
We came home, sun-soaked and tired, full of the noise and bustle of the fair. We needed the summer seduction of a home-minced beef burger, piled with everything you can imagine. Sheer summer barbecue joy.
The Fair is only the latest of our July adventures. We’ve been inspired by dear Nigel Slater’s new show, “Eating Together,” a truly lovely exploration of how British cooking is influenced by its immigrant population. In this day of threats to all our open countries’ appreciation of the immigrant joys we’ve all loved, this programme is a warm comfort. The concept is to take a celebrated British dish — slow cooked beef and vegetables, for example — and see how Britain’s immigrants have contributed to the notion, expanded it, and frankly exploded it past all recognition. One such example was a supremely hot Ghanaian dish by a lovely young chef, proprietor of one of the new Brixton pop-up restaurant Zoe’s Ghana Kitchen.
On our visit, Zoe’s sister Natalie was in charge, and oh my, the FOOD!
The beef and pepper skewers, the red spiced rice, the fried plantains, and best, to my mind, the spiced mackerel. We ate it ALL.
The whole of the pop-up establishment was wonderfully energetic, fresh and new. All built of containers and simply plopped down in the incredibly vibrant community of Brixton, a new place for me.
We wandered around after our lunch in search of a fishmonger — and found seven or eight of them in shouting distance, not to mention a dozen butchers, fresh fruit and vegetable displays, spice huts. I wanted to move right in.
What a part of this vast Londonness that I’ve never appreciated before!
In the spirit of that openness and celebration of difference, then, we approached our Fourth of July celebrations. The weather was perfection.
I made burgers, John grilled hot dogs. We had found proper French’s mustard, watermelons, fresh corn (it was rather awful) and unearthed John’s mom’s gift at Christmas of Fourth of July napkins! We were ready.
Our guests came with appetites: Elizabeth and Maddie — happy to indulge in Mojitos with Avery — Andrew and Hazel from next door, and Nora’s beautiful family — two little boys, about to be three, when she has her new baby in October. The three she has already are just gorgeous.
From the Fourth, we emerged to enjoy another London summer tradition in July, the Royal Academy Summer Exhibition visit. We went with my dear friend Sue, who having had us over for dinner on THE HOTTEST evening of the year, had somehow in a fit of heat stroke convinced us to pop back into Central London for the show, the Monday after.
I was sorry to find that the pieces I loved the best — a vitrine installation and a drawing — were by already-famous people (Anselm Kiefer and Cornelia Parker), rather than the undiscovered gems one is meant to find at the RA Summer show. But it was glorious.
As was the play the following night, yet another production of the Importance of Being Earnest. How many versions of this delicious Oscar Wilde invention can our family ingest? Of course David Suchet was marvellous, as expected, but the true joy was in finding the actors playing Cecily and Gwendolyn (“Good heavens, Gwendolyn!), and Algernon and Jack so inventive, so fresh, so able to invest their roles now over 100 years old with new layers, new laughter. It was a total joy.
All this was mitigated only by the sorrow of a toothache for John, which kept him from the play. This combined with his having sprained his toe on a pile of my cookbooks led to my coming up with surely the WORST pub name in the history of English pubs: “The Toe and the Tooth.”
He survived by working hard on Potters Fields, with meetings here and there, and the plans spread out on the dining table, only recently cleared off of Avery’s piles of revision notes.
Oh, the evening when I drove with John to his late-night dental appointment in not-so-nearby Harrow, to chat in the heavenly summer sunset as we went, then read peacefully in the hospital waiting room while he was seen to, then drive home again in the balmy night air. Only to arrive home near midnight to find out car convertible roof wouldn’t close. “Bloody hell,” we said in unison, as John fetched a cocktail and a tool box. Finally we left it covered with a tarp until help could come the next morning.
There have been quiet days of the three of us reading in the sunny living room, wandering into the rather crunchy brown garden now and then, with a lawn chair or just a bath towel in the sun, watching Tacy eat cobwebs. Which turns out to be a thing.
With the garden doors open, Cressie the Visitor Cat has tried to make inroads.
Avery and I field the dramas, which ended one night in a slight scuffle and a “Keechie’s ear actually bled onto my phone!” from Avery, a sentence we must surely add to our collection of “never been said before.”
Tomorrow is my last day in London before we all disperse for the coming six weeks or so. On Wednesday, I will take a train to Devon for an overnight bell-ringing adventure (more on this to be sure!), then to America for two weeks (ditto, there will be loads of commentary!). But I will miss my family dinners at home.
To mark the occasion with a truly delicious dinner, last night saw us with a vegetable-laden extravaganza, inspired by Sue’s hospitality earlier in the month. I hate peas! normally. Famously! But this dish, raw, fresh and highly flavored, was a revelation.
Sue’s July Peas
300g/ 2 cups fresh-shelled, raw peas
juice of 1 lemon
2 garlic cloves
125 g/4 oz/1 cup grated Parmesan
generous drizzle olive oil
fresh ground black pepper
sea salt to taste
Put all the ingredients into a small food processor and pulse until a pleasant, rough-ground texture is achieved. Tip into a bowl and sprinkle with more olive oil and cheese right before serving.
This dish, served with roasted beetroot wedges with fresh thyme and olive oil, and steamed new poatoes with parsley, butter and garlic, would have been a perfect dinner. But because it was July, and I’m about to abandon my family to weeks of their own cooking, it seemed only right to combine the vegetables with a gorgeous barbecued pork tenderloin, marinated in a wonderful spice blend I found in Brixton called “chicken salt,” plus garlic and onion powders, fresh black pepper, lemon and lime juice, lemon grass, chopped red onion. This tenderloin was left in the fridge to its own devices for perhaps an afternoon, then grilled for what I will forever think of as “pork 5/5/5.” This means, high heat for five minutes, turn over and grill for another five minutes, then turn off the heat and shut the grill lid for another five minutes. This serves as the resting period. Cut thick slices and serve with all the vegetables you can find.
And enjoy July, on your church tower, or wherever the beautiful early month finds you.
It’s been a perfect maelstrom of events here in our London lives. All the seeds I’ve planted throughout the year somehow come up as regularly as our June lavender, every year. This particular June some unusual blossoms appeared.
How many people can say they’ve rung bells for an Archbishop of Canterbury? Well, I have, as it turns out.
As part of the ongoing celebrations of the 800th anniversary of the signing of the Magna Carta, the most recently retired Archbishop, Rowan Williams, came to St Mary’s to offer a sermon. It was a gala occasion. We “rang him in,” and then as I was walking my bike around from the back of the church, where the bell chamber door is, this is the sight that greeted me.
This particular Archbishop is dear to my heart for a number of reasons: his liberal thinking about women and gay bishops, his deep understanding of Islam, his new position as Master of Magdalene College, Cambridge, and: he married William and Kate!
I paused to see the pageantry of his arrival at St Mary’s, feeling self-conscious that I was pedalling away rather than staying for his sermon. But he looked twinklingly at me and gave a slight smile, then entered the packed church.
That was a very cool moment for me.
We’ve had my very last “MIV Sale,” which sounds as if we’re selling the MIVs (first-year students at Avery’s school), but really means we’re selling lacrosse sticks, masks, boots and drama shoes to the incoming MIVs at their Welcome Tea. It’s such a warm, cosy event, at which I traditionally meet the new mothers who will be the latest recruits to Lost Property in the autumn. Many mothers have told me over the years that meeting me at the Tea was their first introduction to the school, and it set the tone for welcome and warmth. I took a moment in the empty Old Library, scene of the Sale, before all the clobber arrived. What happy times I have spent in that sunny, elegant room: Parents’ Guild meetings around these tables, decorating for the Christmas Fair, Parents’ Evenings hearing our daughter’s work praised.
Last week saw John and me in that very room again, sipping sparkling water and greeting fellow volunteers, at the High Mistress’s thank– you meeting with all of us. Seven years of giving time, effort, money, and love to that school have come to an end for us, unbelievably.
I’ve been united with my latest Home-Start family — a big one this time, lots of children who clamor for my listening ear, my welcoming lap! How I wish I could tell you about them, show them to you. They are my fifth family, and I couldn’t be happier. This turns out to be literally true: of course most of the world’s attention to this fantastic charity is on the impact our work has on the families we support, but Home-Start just sent all its volunteers a 37-page study on a surprising subject: the impact of Home-Start on the lives of the volunteers. The conclusion?
“The greatest journey of change was in the volunteers’ self-confidence, the mean score at the start of training was 2.90 and increased significantly to 4.50. There was found to be a significant change over time in the volunteers’ sense of usefulness, awareness of others, confidence in own identity and looking forward in life. The measures of both physical and mental health for the volunteers improved during their time volunteering.”
I can absolutely attest to this result. Being one of those people who can be a bit anxious, a big moody, a bit self-absorbed, one of my sovereign remedies for these feelings is to arrange a meeting with my Home-Start family. It’s absolutely impossible to feel negative when in the presence of a gaggle of friendly, smiling little people.
To be a more useful volunteer, I’ve signed up for a three-day course in pediatric first aid.
You might wonder — is this qualification perhaps 18 years or so late, in my life? Yes indeed. Avery somehow survived her entire childhood without my being able to do anything to save her, should she have needed saving. To be truthful, I never even learned to take her temperature properly. I remember turning up at her New York pediatrician with a feverish child. “What’s her temperature, Kristen?” her suave French doctor asked. “I don’t know! Too hot!”
So this skill is definitely one whose time has come, given how much time I spend with my current Home-Start family, my former Home-Start family (now dear friends of mine), and Home-Start playgroup. I’ve had just the one lesson and I can tell you, I now feel certain that someone on every bus journey I take is about to choke on a grape.
Of course, the kitties, Avery’s mainstay throughout this endless, stressful month of exams, have been much in evidence. To John’s chagrin, all of them have learned Tacy’s trick of drinking from his water glass. Keechie’s thirst (with a full dish of clean water at her disposal at all times, of course) knows no impediments.
Visitor kitty extraordinaire Cressida is loyal to Avery and comes round often, leaving drifts of her impossibly long fur everywhere. Better she visits in the garden.
Food, of course, rears its delicious head every June, when John and I find ourselves taking up our tickets to “Taste of London.” Every year I look forward greatly to this afternoon of gluttony, and this year, under a bright blue sky, the food did not disappoint.
Sweetbreads “popcorn” with Worcestershire mousse!
These were crunchy, soft, savoury. Made me want to buy some sweetbreads and start experimenting.
What could be better than ceviche of scallops? With dainty pickled cucumber towers.
The best dish, we thought? Crab and single-malt scotch soup, with a crab and cold butter “lollipop.”
The concept of this dish is deeply pleasing: it’s a very hot soup, into which you dip a very cold “lollipop” on a stick. The lollipop consists of white crab, beautifully blended with butter and chilled. When you stir the lollipop in the soup, it melts and disperses its crab in a buttery wave throughout the whole dish. Just amazing. I shall certainly try a version of this for us, very soon.
But funnily enough, the dish that served as the most immediate inspiration to me was a dish we didn’t even sample at Taste! I saw the title “Prawn Burger” too late: we were completely stuffed! But it was just the work of a moment to give it a think and come up with a quite perfect recipe.
Thai Shrimp Burgers
1 lb/450g raw shrimp
1/2 cup/30g Panko breadcrumbs
zest of 1 lime
zest of 1 lemon
1 medium-hot red chilli, finely chopped
1 stalk lemongrass, finely chopped
1-inch knob ginger, grated
2 cloves garlic, finely chopped
handful chives, finely chopped
handful cilantro/coriander, leaves only, finely chopped
juices of lime and lemon
tiny squirt clear honey
1 tbsp Worcestershire sauce
1/2 tsp fish sauce
1/2 tsp mirin
plenty fresh black pepper
sprinkle sea salt
4 bread rolls
3 tbsps mayonnaise
squirt hot chilli sauce, to taste
4 handfuls arugula/rocket
In a food processor, pulse the shrimp until the texture of ground meat. Tip into a largeish bowl and sprinkle on all the ingredients up to the juices. In a small bowl, mix the juices, honey, Worcestershire and fish sauces and mirin, then pour over the shrimp and mix everything well. Form into four burgers and sprinkle with the pepper and salt. Set in fridge, covered with plastic wrap, for at least an hour, but up to six.
Heat your grill to 400F/200C and grill four about 5 minutes per side. More reliable than timing is the way the burger feels. Pressed with your fingertip, it should have the resistance of the tip of your nose. Err on the side of cooking longer as you really don’t want undercooked shrimp. At the end of the cooking time, cut the rolls in half, remove as much of the inside bread as possible and save for bread crumbs later. Grill the rolls cut side down till crisp.
Mix the mayonnaise and chilli sauce to the hotness you like. On each open roll, pack in the arugula. Top with the burgers and a dollop of spicy mayo, and close with the top half of the roll.
Oh, the flavors of this burger! Fresh, spicy, exotic. And the texture: soft, but firm enough to survive their exposure on the grill. What a good idea these burgers are. I can picture doing them VERY tiny, on a lettuce leaf, as an appetizer for a dinner party.
I would have taken them with me for EITHER of the glorious Lost Property lunches that have been given for me, but… I wasn’t allowed to bring anything to EITHER of them! First, my darling friend Fiona hosted our whole group, all the current volunteers. Oh, the gorgeous food, the laughter, the remembered fun of dirty lacrosse boots finding their mates. What a gift Lost Property has been to me, all these seven years: a reason to be in school and see Avery, a seat at the Parents’ Guild meeting, a way to be part of that wonderful, wonderful school.
And their delightful gift to me: this sweet bag, signed by them all. To help keep me organised!
And then dear Emma, my oldest friend from Lost Property, gave another lunch for a small group of us representing the past and the future. How lucky I am to know that my beloved group of volunteers will be cared for by Fiona and Rebecca.
Oh, the menu! Roasted salmon with spinach and asparagus, quinoa with mango and pomegranate, tomatoes with mint and preserved lemon, all rounded off with an incredible lemon meringue ice cream and apricot tart.
There is simply nothing more comforting than the company of like-minded friends in times of big life changes — saying goodbye to the school that has been such a joy for all of us. These are friends with older children who can reassure me that life goes on, friends with younger children who are still deep in the throes of all the hard work and decision-making that results in an adult child.
It was a wonderful afternoon.
And our child is adult. We turned up at school for “Valediction,” the English version of graduation. The reason that “graduation” doesn’t apply is simple, and rather diabolical. Avery’s exam results don’t come through until mid-August, and university offers are no more than that: they are offers, contingent on those exam results. Now, there is no doubt that Avery will do just fine on her results, and she’ll be off to Oxford in the autumn as planned. But until those results come through, there’s really no closure. The school has in recent years come to realise that parents (perhaps particularly American parents) like a bit of fuss, so they invited us all to school, into the aptly-named “Great Hall,” to thank the girls for their hard work, the parents for their time and support.
What an emotional afternoon. We sat with dear, dear friends, parents of Avery’s closest friends, on either side of us, I clutching a tissue in the certain expectation that I would cry (I did, as quietly as I could). Tutor group by tutor group, the girls crossed the stage to shake the High Mistress’s hand and receive a book and a brooch with the school crest. Their future plans were announced. The High Mistress spoke, then the Master of the Worshipful Company of Mercers, the owners of the school, spoke (she’s a lady, for the first time in 700 years). The President of the Mercers spoke. The Head Girl spoke. Through it all, I could only try not to become overwhelmed by the memories of the little girl, eyes wide with anticipation, fear and delight, that we delivered to this magical institution seven years ago.
The next evening, she dressed up for the Leavers’ Ball, a swishy affair at a Piccadilly hotel. How lovely she looked.
At the close of this eventful month, we all take a deep breath of gratitude for all the planted seeds — Avery most of all — and the beautiful blooms they have become.
And so it’s finally June. The month of roses, clearly. And buttercups, who open bravely each morning, and then fold their tiny petals at dusk. I won’t let John cut the grass, not until they’ve had a little chance at life.
And what on earth is this bizarre flower, a combination of Victorian fashion and cake decoration?
‘Tis the season as well for one of England’s cherished early summer delights, the fresh pea.
I want to like peas, I really do. Avery adores them. So I conscientiously bought a huge bag of the fresh pods and laboriously shelled them all, only to end up with a very small number of actual peas and a reminder that I am just not a fan. Still, it’s June, so I did my bit. I consoled myself with a beautiful fillet steak and a truly simple Bearnaise sauce. Don’t scare yourself with double boilers and the like. Just jump in and enjoy.
Simple Bearnaise Sauce
225g/1 cup (two sticks) butter
3 tbsps white wine vinegar
1 tsp white wine
1 banana shallot, finely chopped
12 tarragon leaves, finely chopped
3 egg yolks
fresh black pepper and salt to taste
Put the butter in a small saucepan to melt very slowly. Some recipes have you clarify the butter, but I have never known why: the whey is perfectly delicious, in my opinion. Meanwhile, place the vinegar, wine, shallot and tarragon in another small saucepan and simmer gently until the mixture reduces just a bit. Leave to cool while you separate the eggs, then put the butter, wine mixture and egg yolks in a small food processor and blend until smooth. Season to taste and serve hot. If you have to reheat any leftover sauce, do it extremely gently, as this sauce will split in an instant if treated harshly.
I’ve been tremendously inspired to cook some new things by a visit to one of the most sublime restaurants we have ever encountered, Manchester House. Oh yes, did I forget to tell you we went to Manchester? For LUNCH. I’ll explain.
Last year, the BBC aired a programme called Restaurant Wars, in which two star chefs arrived in Manchester to see if they could open a restaurant that would win a Michelin star. I’ll put in my two cents right at the beginning of this tale: I could not care less whether a restaurant has such an accolade. I can’t imagine being dictated to by some professional critic as to what food deserves my attention, and the idea of competing for deliciousness is just ludicrous to me.
But chefs do care, at least these two did. So Simon Rogan and Aiden Byrne arrived in the great northern city, famously unsupportive of fancy places to eat, and set about to wow the populace. Their styles, both personal and culinary, were very different and we felt quite sure that we would love the food prepared by Byrne, a mild, soft-spoken, precise man who had had professional disappointments and was filled with ambition.
I would not probably have gone all the way to Manchester for lunch but for the coincidence of a tremendous art exhibition I was dying to see. Do you know the Whitworth Gallery, and the divine Cornelia Parker? Her work is all about taking things apart and putting them back together in mind-blowing ways.
Oh, SO worth a trip almost anywhere, Cornelia is. So off we went, leaving Avery to her own devices, which in these boring pre-exam days seem to be filled only with index cards.
Ever since our adventure in Zurich this winter, we’ve been determined to do more things just the two of us, and Manchester was just what the doctor ordered: a few hours on a comfortable train, speeding north through the beautiful English countryside, ending up in a great city with a completely different accent to what we hear down South, against a backdrop of industrial architecture.
There is just something brilliant about getting out of the daily routine, daily chores, and the daily scene, even just overnight. Freed from the responsibilities of kitchen, laundry, pets, and computer, we gazed around at our new surroundings, hopped on a very foreign-seeming bus, asked directions from strangers. At the restaurant, we settled down to truly enjoy ourselves, and our gourmet lunch.
Things I couldn’t even imagine knowing how to cook! After writing a cookbook, that’s a challenge: finding something I really couldn’t make at home. But Manchester House fed us dish after dish that was just that: unimaginable. “Chicken butter”! Made by cooking a chicken in a pressure cooker for several days to bring it to “chicken essence,” then blending it with homemade butter, and topping it with dehydrated, powdered chicken skin. heaven!
And a smoked foie gras parfait, served in a perfect egg shell, topped with pea puree and tiny, halved fresh peas.
These delights were followed by a perfect sea bream fillet with langoustines smoked in pine oil, with the ultimate CARROT, blanched in carrot essence and served with carrot butter. Heaven.
We had to roll ourselves out of the restaurant, talking a mile a minute about the meal, enjoying a tour around the city’s magnificent Chinatown. John is so tolerant of my desire to enter every single supermarket, wondering if I might find a still better chilli and garlic sauce than the one I have at home, pinching heads of garlic, assessing the relative spiciness of bags of peppers. Food shopping: always perfect fun.
We collapsed with cocktails at the hotel and I enjoyed the rare feeling of freedom from the kitchen: no prep, no timings, no mess. Very late, we wandered out and had a gorgeous, sizzling, spicy Korean meal of “jat bulgogi,” a Korean barbecued beef, and “bibimbap,” a mixture of fried rice, cabbage and egg. We weren’t even really hungry, but the fun of eating two meals out in one day was not to be missed.
Next day we braved the rain to walk through the city via the University, a really lovely campusy place with a very vibrant feeling. Among its beautiful buildings we found the Whitworth Gallery and the Parker show. She is among a handful of artists whose work leaves me speechless with admiration.
The hallmark of her work is a desire to take things apart, to empty them, transform them, flatten or wrap them, or often to show what is NOT there. Take this stunning installation, for example.
This is an entire room lined in the reams of paper left behind when the Remembrance Poppies are cut from them. So the shape, of such iconic significance, is in its negative form, the white space left behind after the manufacturing process.
There is such humor, too!
When Parker worked as an assistant at the Tate Gallery, Rodin had fallen out of favor and this precious group, “The Kiss,” was simply left in storage, forgotten. Parker asked permission to wrap it in a mile of rope, and permission was given.
What a show. “Drawings” made from bullets melted down and turned into wire, threaded through handmade paper.
The imagination, the sheer love of process, the joy in the unexpected. Quite a lot like our lunch the previous day, actually! Ingredients that have been taken out of context, treated in a way you’d never imagined, presented in a way that highlights the endless possibilities of every element. What an art form, whether in food or in paper, or bullets.
Isn’t that the fun of culture, after all? Seeing what someone vastly more imaginative than I can do with the elements of life that we all have around us.
We came home in a haze of appreciation, and the very next day popped off to the divine “Old Vic” with Avery to see one of our family’s absolute favorite movies, only on stage, LIVE! High Society, what a joy. The Old Vic is now coming to end of its tenure under Kevin Spacey’s direction, and this was a massively fitting celebration. Staged in the round, and we had front-row tickets! The dancers’ dresses brushed our knees. Oh, the music. “True Love,” my childhood in a song.
Isn’t it wonderful to watch and hear incredibly talented people at the top of their game? Joe Stilgoe, a mind-bogglingly talented pianist and singer, opened the musical with a completely clever, spontaneous mash-up of ANY song that an audience member might suggest! Can you imagine the talent? Go, if you can.
All this exposure to creative people pushing the envelope led me — don’t laugh — to enter the kitchen with a renewed sense of purpose! Why complain about the quality of things I buy in the grocery store, when I can make them myself, and SO much better? I began with a family favorite.
450g/1 lb fresh salmon fillet
85g/5 tbsps granulated sugar
70g/4 tbsps Maldon salt
2 tbsps vodka
juice of 1 lemon or lime
2 tsps fresh black pepper
100g/3½ ounces fresh dill
Lay the salmon fillet in a plastic box with a close-fitting lid, or a Ziplock bag. Mix all the other ingredients well and pour over the salmon. Cover, or zip shut, and refrigerate for at least 48 hours, turning once.
When you are ready to eat the gravadlax, remove the salmon from the marinade and lay on a cutting board. With a very sharp knife, cut in very thin slices, at an angle across the top of the fillet. Serve plain, or on a bagel with all the trimmings.
The quality of this fish was beyond anything I had ever purchased, for the simple reason that I was able to buy the highest quality possible fresh salmon. Who knows if commercial preparers are willing to spend for the best, when the perception may be that the curing process will cover any deficiencies? As well, the fresh slicing is a boon. The fish was soft as could be, and highly flavorful.
The bagel was just awful. A supermarket variety, since I had no opportunity to visit a specialist delicatessen or a Jewish neighborhood. And suddenly I thought, “What on earth is stopping me making bagels at home?” The answer to that question was “absolutely nothing.” Because this was a baking project, and therefore scientific and requiring strict following of instructions, I did just that, and you should too. Easy-peasy, from this lovely blog, “The Sophisticated Gourmet.” I’ll reproduce the instructions here, with my little addendums. You’ll need to have what’s called a “stand mixer,” in my opinion, unless you’re a truly experienced kneader. I borrowed my friend Fiona’s Kitchen Aid, and now I’d really like one of my own.
2 tsps (one envelope) active dry yeast
1 ½ tbsps granulated sugar
355 ml/1 ¼ cups warm water (you may need ¼ cup more, depending on climatic conditions)
500g/3.5 cups strong bread flour or high-gluten flour (will need extra for kneading
1 ½ teaspoons salt
In a cup, place the yeast, sugar and 125 ml/1/2 cup of the warm water. Leave for five minutes without stirring, then stir thoroughly.
Place the flour in the bowl of the stand mixer, and make a well in the center. Pour in the yeast mixture, lower the bread-making blade into the bowl and turn on low. Gradually add the remaining warm water as the mixer works, scraping the sides of the bowl as needed. After several minutes the dough will be so stiff that the mixer makes small thumping movements and noises. Don’t worry! The goal is to incorporate all the flour for a very stiff dough, so add more warm water as you need to, to form such a dough. It was such fun, using my friend Fiona’s machine and my mother’s flour canister, a wedding present over 50 years ago.
When the dough is ready, place it in an oiled bowl at least twice as large as the dough. Turn the ball of dough so that it is all covered with oil. Cover with cling film or a damp tea towel and leave in a warm place for at least an hour (I left mine for over six hours as I was out of the house). Punch down and on a floured surface, divide into eight equal portions.
Roll them into as perfect balls as you can attain, then with a flour thumb, make a hole in the center and spin the dough around your thumb until you have a… bagel! Place them on an oiled baking tray.
Cover them with a damp towel and let rest for 10 minutes. Heat your oven to 220C/425F.
Bring a large pot of water to a boil, then place as many bagels as can fit in a single layer into the bubbling water. Boil for 2 minutes, then turn over and boil for another 2 minutes. Remove with a slotted spoon to the oiled baking tray and continue until all bagels are boiled.
Now, while they are wet, you can choose whether to bake them plain, or sprinkle them with toppings. Sea salt is perfect, of course, but other wonderful ideas are:
sesame seeds (black or blond)
dehydrated minced onions, garlic
The classic New York “everything bagel” is just what it says on the tin: everything on this list.
Bake the bagels for about 20 minutes, to the brownness you like. Sit back and feel homesick for New York City, then dig in.
Now of course you’ll note that by the time I made my bagels, I had run out of my precious gravadlax, and so resorted to very posh plain smoked salmon from Fortnum’s. Next time I’ll time my projects so I have both elements of the perfect brunch in place, all at once.
And while you have that borrowed Kitchen Aid mixer, go on. Do something special for your daughter studying for her exams. Make her proper doughnuts.
New Orleans Beignets
(makes about 4 dozen, so you can pop some of the dough in the freezer, or share with your friend who loaned you the Kitchen Aid mixer)
2 tsps (1 envelope) active dry yeast
125 ml/1/2 cup water at precisely 46C/115F
1 tsp granulated sugar
250 ml/1 cup evaporated milk
2 large eggs, beaten slightly
1 tsp salt
112g/1/2 cup granulated sugar
250 ml/1 cup water at precisely 46C/115F
55g/1/4 cup butter
900g/7 cups plain/all-purpose flour
In the bowl of the stand mixer, place the yeast, warm water, and 1 tsp sugar. Mix well and leave to sit five minutes. Add milk, eggs, salt and sugar and mix well.
Microwave second quantity of water until the precise temperature is reached, then melt the butter in it. Add to the yeast mixture and on low power, mix well. Gradually add the flour until a sticky dough is reached (you may not need the last 125g/cup or so). Place in an oiled bowl and turn the dough so it is all oiled, then cover tightly with cling film and refrigerate for at least 4 hours, but up to 1 week.
Grab a handful of this dough and place onto a well-floured surface, then flour the dough further. Roll out to half-centimeter/1/4″ thick and cut into squares of your desired size, with a pizza cutter. Bring oil in your frying pan or deep-fryer to 180C/350F and fry the beignets on one side for about 1 minute, or until golden brown, then turn and fry another minute, or until golden brown. Remove to a cooling rack and dust with icing sugar.
At this point, you can see that the beignets are a bit hollow inside, so if you feel inclined you can pipe in some Nutella or whipped cream, or slip in a slice of ripe peach or two. I have a mind to substitute some melty cheese for the evaporated milk in this recipe, and produce some savoury beignets, perhaps filled with sausage?
You see, once you get out there, see what other brilliant people are making with their energy, it’s but the work of a moment to make something yourself. Go on, be inspired.
It is a beautiful spring day here in London, edging ever closer, day by day, to true summer. The churchyard is hung with bunting to celebrate the 800th anniversary of the Magna Carta, whose signing took place in Runnymede, and one of whose signers, Bishop Langton, came through our neighborhood on his way home, and sanctified our church chapel. 800 years ago. That is history.
It’s helpful to focus on the REALLY long game, because I won’t lie to you. I’m finding the big picture of my own small life at the moment to be a bit challenging.
It’s the forest that’s getting to me. The trees themselves are perfectly lovely: Avery is in the last month of her much-appreciated secondary education, doing well, anticipating the excitement of university in October, after a summer of blissful travel. She is ready to leave.
John is in the throes of applying for permissions for the details of our dream house, to be built in the coming two or three years at the foot of Tower Bridge. It’s an unbelievably complex process, a drama peopled by seemingly ever-increasing numbers of advisors, engineers, architects, planners. He is very ambitious, and very positive. He is inventing a business.
I myself am still basking in the glow of the finished cookbook, hearing almost every day reports by Facebook and email of things my friends are cooking, taking to potlucks, dishes that are becoming Friday-night staples, most-requested family dishes, new birthday traditions. The recipes, the photographs, and the stories in the book have become part of people’s lives. I couldn’t have predicted the wide range of sheer FUN everyone is having with the book, all over the world. It is a dream come true.
Even Tina the Wonder Dog, my friend Alyssa’s partner in crime, isn’t immune to the book’s charms.
And my bell-ringing! Would you ever have believed, when I started regaling you with my ambitions and adventures in the belfry four years ago, that I’d still be at it? That I would be thriving and still learning, but amazingly, accomplished enough to help others learn? A massive milestone on Saturday: I gave my first lesson to a new learner.
It seems very recent that I myself was learning, the tail stroke and sally stroke rung separately, my dear teachers Andrew, Trisha and Eddie devoted to my progress. Of course every week I still need to learn something new myself, but to be in a place where I can pass along even a tiny piece of wisdom? That feels very good.
So what can I possibly have to worry me? It’s to do with the threads I’ve woven around me.
It’s part of my dark, twisty Scandinavian nature to value things to the precise extent that I’ll be heartbroken when they’re over. I’ll miss Avery’s school — and my place in it — terribly, come autumn. This will be the first autumn since I was five years old that my life won’t revolve around a school. I went straight from school as a student to school as a professor, to school as a mother. What on earth will happen to that part of me that sees autumn as a beginning? I don’t think that the mother of a university “fresher” counts as a school mother, any more.
I really can’t even think of not having her here, either. The loosening of that particular thread will take a lot of getting used to. If I hadn’t tied it so tightly, it would be easier. But ties aren’t really made to be loose, are they? Slipknots are a cheat. You have to tie real knots, but then be ready to undo them, when you need to.
Of course I’m excited for John to have his project looming so large, and I’m incredibly proud of what he’s achieved already, against so many odds. I know I will love our eventual dream home. But I love the home I have now, in my secure little village with its small, cosy shops filled with people who ask how I am, what I’m cooking. I love my church, my belltower, scene of such drama, learning and just plain good fun.
I know I’ve been happy in other places, in fact in all the other places in my past. Every time we move, every time things change, I vow for a brief moment not to get so involved, not to get so wrapped up in the new life, the new people, the new community. But each time, I find myself falling in love. I find myself at the Church Hall with eight other ladies, scraping snails off 90 wineglasses and dinner plates, since they were stored outdoors in a cardboard box that disintegrated in the English rain. We will need them all for a parishioner’s 95th birthday, next month.
I want to be a person who sees five people she knows on her bike ride home from yoga, and for her yoga teacher’s mom to be a trustee at Home-Start, where I’ve put so much of my heart. I like to put down roots, connect things, to belong. If I were a knitter, I’d make myself the kind of warm sweater I like to wear.
Houses, too. They change. But I like this place, the warmth and love I’ve poured into this home, the dining table that has been the scene of so many beautiful dinners, but also — as now — the locus of all Avery’s schoolwork, exam after exam. How hard she has worked, here.
This is the place that gave birth to my beloved “Tonight at 7.30″! It was here that the vast bulk of the photographs were taken by Avery, in the sunny garden, in the lightbox in the crowded laundry room, on the stovetop with savoury things bubbling away. It was here that the hilarious “dropping of the turkey” at the Kickstarter video day took place, and here that I slaved over the design of every paragraph, the sweet aprons, the back-breaking index, the passionate Kickstarter campaign, the packing of the parcels to mail around the world.
I hate to say goodbye to any of it, the memories that fill this house, and my life in it.
Naturally, the thing to do when I’m already feeling sad and nostalgic is to spend an entire afternoon positively wallowing in the past. Oh, the stack of photo albums.
It is only in the last couple of years that I’ve stopped putting all our photographs into albums. John’s mother dotes on this pile whenever (wherever) she comes to visit, and her time with us isn’t complete until she’s gone through every single page of every single album, sticky with photo glue, representing every stage of our lives from marriage until just the last year or two, when it began to feel a bit odd to memorialise the lives of middle-aged people and their nearly-adult daughter. Sigh.
Actually, I found the process of looking through the stack quite comforting. Rather than feeling melancholy over the passage of time, I felt really grateful for all the fun we’ve had, with the small child we enjoyed so much, in all the places we’ve lived and thrived, with all the characters who have peopled the drama. Here are just a few…
Christmas in Indianapolis, with my mother and Wishbone, a pal from baby days.
Avery, Annabelle and Elliot, her “nearly cousins,” out picking apples on a sparkling October day in New York State.
Me, Mia and Joel, the “client” and the creators, of our lovely New York loft.
Avery in a library in Waterloo, Iowa, during an idyllic summer visit.
Avery and her dad in an earlier summer in Iowa, posing on the golf course.
Another happy moment, that same evening.
Avery with Vincent’s little girls, all talented photographers now, descended from the photographer fathers.
Me, in our New York Broadway apartment of a lifetime ago, playing with the little girl next door who inspired us to have Avery.
A millennium bash, the dinner party to end all dinner parties, 2000.
Posing with friends at the most glamorous wedding ever, back in the five minutes, circa 1996, when smoking a cigar was actually cool.
This hilarious shot of Avery, aged perhaps five, the first recorded moment (of MANY) of her reacting with indignation at something she’s read in the paper.
Basking in the sunshine in a riyadh, in Marakkesh.
A long-ago birthday party, without a care in the world.
The next 20 years of our lives won’t be lovingly photographed in quite the same way that the past 20 have been, I know that. This is the calm before the storm, the last few months before everything changes, before the focus shifts and the kaleidoscope settles into a new pattern.
The thing about relationships, whether they’re with schools, or homes, belfries or children, is that you can’t insulate yourself from the heartache of things changing. You have to throw yourself heart and soul into the relationships as they grow, enjoying every bit that you can, and be ready to let go when the time comes.
I must find a way to enjoy the forest AND the trees, and this single peony in my garden. After all, it’s in the nature of a garden, and a peony in particular, to be temporary. But it’s still important to love them. And then gather my energy to tie a few new knots.
It’s that time of year again…
The Gathering of Nuts in May, that annual celebration of gluttony – or gastronomy, as my Nuts and I choose to think of it – shared by a half dozen or so aspiring food writers, reunited every May after our 2008 adventure with the Arvon Foundation, at Totleigh Barton, a pre-Domesday whitewashed house in the wilds of Devon.
Who would ever have predicted that we six, survivors of the original 15 writers who gathered in the wilds of Devon seven years ago, for five days of instruction by our tutors (some of it painfully, even brutally honest!). Oh, the hours we spent honing our craft.
What happy memories we all have of our shared experiments in learning, writing, reading, reading aloud what we’d written, in an ancient English barn.
Funnily enough, the least of our adventure back then was in the eating! Arvon arranges for its students to cook together every evening, in teams, but little did we know that for a weekend every May ever since, those diehards among us would eventually think of virtually nothing BUT cooking, for the several days we spend together. Our memories of our first meeting are bright, if fuzzy.
At our reunions, we are unabashedly obsessed with food. There’s the shopping. And the eating. And the talking about shopping and cooking and eating. We none of us finish a meal without instantly talking about where the next one is coming from, what it will be, who will cook it. It’s a recipe for intense boredom for most people I know – including my long-suffering family! – but for we six, it’s heaven. Kristen, Rosie, Sam, Susan, Pauline and Katie: the GNIM.
And for the last several years, we’ve been joined by one of our original tutors, the divine Orlando, such a staunch supporter of all our work from Day One, generous writer of one of the “blurbs” on my cookbook flap, cook extraordinaire and writer to match. Even with a flower behind his ear.
This year, Orlando offered to pick me up at the train station closest to our destination – a truly remarkable house found by our Susan, in Ilfracombe, coastal Devon. This sort of favor isn’t really properly appreciated until I tell you what burdens I labored under. Because the Friday night plan, on our precious weekends, is for me to bring the supper and Rosie to bring the pudding, I had with me a large crustless tart containing a wealth of white crab meat and lashings of cream and goat cheese, plus a plastic box of delicate potato salad, made with new Jersey Royals just dug out of the ground. Not by me, of course, but fresh nonetheless. So it was most welcome when Orlando’s car pulled up at the local train station and we motored on over to the coast.
This was our view from the sitting room of The Round House, which was just what it said on the tin.
Built on a dare from one architect to another, The Round House is truly round. Curved everywhere.
Inside, it’s large enough that its roundness isn’t immediately noticeable, especially in the spacious sitting room, furnished like the very best Edwardian retreat.
We were astonished at the sheer wealth of THINGS that the owners left behind, so vulnerable to the average renter.
Furniture simply overflowing with precious things.
Some verged on the creepy, in an entirely charming way.
Rosie, Susan and Pauline greeted us and began to give us a tour, but before we could properly settle in, of course, provisions of a lavish nature had to be delivered.
Oh, the butter, the cream, the eggs, bacon, olive oil, lemons and limes, garlic and onions, bread, marmalade, coffee. The basics, so that we could focus our considerable food-gathering talents on the Stars of the Show each meal: the fresh meats and vegetables bought locally, for the maximum in fun.
Rooms were apportioned, luggage stowed, hands washed, and Orlando and I set out on a voyage of discovery in the nearby town of Ilfracombe, pronounced “coom.” Here we searched in vain for a wine shop, armed with Orlando’s phone video of Rosie’s describing precisely the type of cider she would most like to drink. We played this video for the young woman behind the till in the shop that finally yielded up the cider. “You can see that this is not a woman to be trifled with,” Orlando explained. The young woman backed away from us. “I think she was tapping her foot on some sort of panic button, there at the end,” he hazarded. “We might just have crossed that border from friendly to frightening.”
Ilfracombe itself was a little… odd. A bit of a town that time forgot, with all unique and rather tired, dusty shops containing a plethora of odd items.
More on the town later, as it was time to settle in at The Round House.
As the afternoon came to a close, up drove the gorgeous Sam, still in his work clothes and extremely glad to have left his students behind for the long weekend.
Orlando and Sam have a unique bond, forged in years gone by in the hot kitchens of Orlando’s luxury hotel.
Everyone feels better after the first hug from Rosie.
And then came our beautiful, calm Katie, fresh from the rigors of the Britvic invention labs.
“Roomie!” she cried, arms around me. We always room together, even if we don’t stay up half the night as we used to do, younger selves who didn’t know each other quite well enough.
And it was time to pour drinks, catch up with everyone’s news. Rosie has had a spell of feeling poorly and I think we all shared the sense of fragile relief that she is well, and with us for the celebratory weekend. She looked over the plans of Potters Fields with Orlando, discussing the kitchen, of course.
We munched on a selection of cured meats, a treat I would never normally think to buy, but so delicious, in the way that only something so purely fatty can be. The platter rested near a certain cookbook that everyone was truly lovely about: the culmination of the project that, when we first met nearly eight years ago, was but a dream, the reason for my turning up at the food writers’ course.
Susan brought out her super surprise: one of the new decorated cakes in the Marks and Spencer line she’s been proudly working on.
Personalised for us!
We trooped into the elaborate dining room for our inaugural supper. I brought along a special little touch.
We greatly enjoyed the crab tart.
But is it a tart, if it’s crustless? We discussed this with the level of detail that only seven such insane people can bring to a topic. “Strictly speaking, a tart does imply pastry,” was the general consensus. “It could be a frittata,” I said, “except that it doesn’t start on the stovetop.” “How about a quiche?” “That’s really a specific term for a type of tart from Eastern France,” Orlando clarified. “A tartine?” All very absorbing conversation.
We ate it all.
The potato salad came under similar scrutiny for the level of mayonnaise-y-ness. “I don’t really think there’s enough mayo,” I apologized, “but I left some home for Avery and she really hates gloppy potato salad.” “It may have soaked up some in the journey,” was suggested, and the general feeling was that any deficiency in the mayo was made up for by the delicacy of the potatoes and the zing of lemon grass.
Then Rosie brought in her divine chocolate mousse, the absolute star of the dessert section of my cookbook. Where I serve mine in a champagne coupe, she serves hers in a gorgeous loaf, topped with biscuits and accompanied by luxurious shots of Amaretto.
We lay becalmed on the living room rug, talking and talking over each other until the prospect of a good night’s sleep beckoned.
Next morning found us fretting that the Duchess of Cambridge had gone into labor. We assuaged our anxiety with huge numbers of poached eggs (a pot of simmering water remained on the stovetop for the duration of breakfast, growing progressively cloudier as eggs of various levels of proficiency were popped in and scooped out. Orlando was the king of poaching, everyone turning out perfectly. Bacon and juicy sausages, fried mushrooms and tomatoes, bread of every description toasted and slathered with butter and jam. And there were Orlando’s incomparable brownies.
Orlando’s ‘After-Dinner’ Brownies (from his “A Table in the Tarn: Living, Eating and Cooking in South-west France”)
(makes about 36 small brownies)
85g/6.5 ounces unsalted butter
285g/10 ounces dark chocolate, broken up into small bits
85g/3 ounces plain flour
40g/1.5 ounces cocoa
100g/3.5 ounces walnuts or pecans, cut in pieces and toasted lightly in a frying pan
3 large eggs
275g/9.75 ounces caster/granulated sugar
“Carnation” tinned caramel sauce for drizzling
Melt the butter with the 185g chocolate (that portion that’s been broken up), either over hot water or in the microwave (about 2 minutes on high).
Sift the flour, cocoa and a pinch of salt into a bowl, then add the nuts. Keep the sieve conveniently to hand.
Whisk the eggs and sugar together, using a stand mixer or electric whisk, for 3–8 minutes (depending on how powerful your mixer is) until thick and foamy. When you lift out the beaters, the egg should leave a short-lived trail on the surface of the mixture rather than sink straight into it.
Pour the chocolate mixture over the surface of the egg mixture, then gently fold in with a large spatula until evenly mixed. Now sift over the flour-cocoa mixture and start to fold this in. Before it is fully amalgamated, tip in the remaining chocolate that you’ve left in small squares. Continue folding, stopping just before the flour is fully mixed (you should spot some flecks of unmixed flour — trust me, this is correct).
Bake in a 20cm/8-inch square tin at 180C/350F for 22–30 minutes until the cake no longer wobbles in the middle and the sides are just beginning to come away from the tin. A toothpick or skewer inserted into the centre of the cake should emerge with sticky crumbs attached (unless you accidentally speared a piece of chocolate in which case try again.
[Orlando assures me privately — and now you know — of a couple of secrets. “You must get the egg-sugar mixture truly mousse-like. Fold in the choc mix and flour gently, stop mixing while there are still light traces of flour evident. And as always, underbake, and as Katharine Hepburn said, ‘Never add too much flour to your brownies.’”]
Dishes done, it was time to begin the journey into town for lunch! To be fair, we also intended to shop for the evening’s “protein” and vegetables. Pauline, Katie and I set off on foot. Oh, the lovely Devon architecture.
And unparalleled floral displays, set into the rather tired, old-fashioned hotel and guesthouse lawns.
Ilfracombe. How to describe it? For a seaside resort, on a Bank Holiday weekend, it seemed oddly muted and certainly not flashy or full of itself. The narrow pavements (what the British call sidewalks) were chock-a-block with locals carrying children, doing their weekend shop, talking in an accent that I found truly challenging unless the person was talking directly to me. The local Green Party occupied space outside one shop, extolling their virtues for the upcoming General Election on Thursday. Sam succumbed.
We acquired a gorgeous slab of pork belly and a couple of roasting chickens from a simply fantastic butcher, Mike Turton, since 1855.
Food always tastes better if the purveyor has a sense of humor.
Susan always achieves the very best bargains.
“It’s a GIRL!” Orlando announced suddenly, his first and last show of interest in the new Royal Baby, and talk of baby names occupied us for the duration of our shopping trip. Oh, the shops. One seemed to have a rather low bar for mercantile appeal.
We all tried to imagine what this empty shop might once have offered.
This bakery seemed positively steeped in the past, with pastries named things like “Japs.”
This restaurant… not sure what to say about its menu.
We heard tell of a Farmer’s Market.
“We should go quickly, in case they sell out early,” Pauline advised, so we began what devolved into the Ilfracombe Market Death March, up one street and down another, searching in vain for a clue to the market’s location. Locals were quizzed, and their patent ignorance taken to be a bad sign. “How much of a market can it be if no one knows about it?” We entertained ourselves during this Quixotic trek with the shop names and often hand-painted signs. Finally we began walking up a hill so steep our noses were practically on the pavement, in search of the church allegedly containing the market.
In light of the new Royal Arrival, we felt this street sign to be fortuitous.
And there was the church! In we trooped, in hot anticipation, our eyes adjusting to a truly extraordinary gloom inside. I wish I had taken pictures, the scene was so odd, but we were already attracting such attention as obvious “Londoners” that I felt inhibited. Oh, the sad displays of a few scones. ‘I’ve sold out of most,” the seller assured us proudly. Hmm. One single sweater for sale, accompanied by a random pile of yarn that could possibly produce another. Under a sign saying, “Organic Meat,” a Styrofoam box containing three frozen lamb chops. And most bizarrely, a girl with a distinct American accent standing behind a table with four boxes of local eggs.
“I have to ask: where are you from and what are you doing here?” I wondered. “I’m from California, and I’m here on a sheep-farming internship.” She must have felt she had landed on Mars. All around in the air hung the silence of the sellers all scrutinizing us openly, while 1940s music played from an invisible Victrola. We left.
And then it was time to walk down the long, LONG steep hill again, to achieve the seaside.
We bought fudge and Ilfracombe rock, that unique and funny British seaside candy with the name of the locality built into the long stick.
We claimed two slightly sticky tables at a fishy pub, The Pier, that spoke clearly of sunny summer days full of tourists.
On our grey, windy, rather damp Saturday in May, it felt a bit out of place. But the fried cod was divine.
The local cider was not to be despised.
It was a lovely lunch.
We investigated the bizarre and massive sculpture, “Verity” by Damien Hirst, at the end of the pier. Unsurprisingly, it is reported that she’s divided the town. “She’s standing on a pile of law books,” Pauline reported in some astonishment.
Nothing, after all, says law and order like a pregnant naked lady holding scales with half the skin on her belly pulled off.
Sam and Orlando drove Rosie and Susan home, while Katie, Pauline and I decided to give the town a bit more time. We walked in a drizzly wind around the more touristy parts, near the sea (“NOT an ocean,” Orlando corrected me more than once. To a landlocked Midwesterner, all water is an ocean.) I was reminded that English is, in fact, a foreign language. I was happy to have translators. “What’s a knickerbocker glory?” I asked. “A huge ice cream,” Katie said. “How about a saveloy?” “A giant red sausage,” she explained. “With batter? Deep-fried?” Pauline wondered. We did not know.
“What’s the difference between a Cornish cream tea and a Devon cream tea?” we all wondered, and a lovely young couple, offering samples of just such treats, answered. “A Cornish cream tea has the jam first, then the cream. A Devon cream tea has the clotted cream spread on the scone first, then the jam. And that’s what you’ve got there.”
We walked home slowly, pausing in the graveyard of the church on our way. I came upon my first knitted poppies, a fine English tradition.
Did you know there is a British activist group who knits GRAFFITI? “Yarnbombing, or yarnstorming,” it is known as. What a typically clever, subversive, subtle, many-layered way that this country finds to express itself.
We approached the church.
“I emailed them to ask if I could ring with them,” I said, “but no one ever replied. Just then, as if summoned by my words, the bells began to ring!
As I was explaining “Devon call changes” to Pauline and Katie who probably had absolutely no interest, a bride and groom emerged from the church door!
The charm of this encounter got us up the incredibly stiff hill that awaited us at the end of the walk home. I tried to capture the steepness, but I can see now that I did not succeed. But it was a lovely path.
We were so glad to arrive home, panting!
We took a tour of the incredible, award-winning gardens that surround The Round House. Orlando and Rosie between them knew all the names of the plants and flowers.
Knowing less than nothing about growing things, I concentrated on the garden decorations.
Water features abounded.
What would an English garden be without a gnome?
The flowers WERE lovely.
But the people were lovelier.
We posed, elaborately and repetitively, for our annual photo. Sam turned on the timer and raced back to us. “I’ve cut my head off!”
Sam is the best little brother I never had.
As our pork belly cooked slowly on its bed of carrots, celery, garlic and rosemary, Jersey Royal potatoes boiled merrily, my beetroots cooking in their foil wrappings, and Pauline’s cumin-dusted cauliflower roasted, we sat up in the rotunda of The Round House and chatted, cocktails in hand.
Susan and Orlando discussed, from their various vantage points of a nursing stint and a growing-up spent there, the Island of Jersey, one of the Channel Islands, and home to a truly horrifying-sounding museum, the Jersey War Tunnels, chronicling the treatment of the Russian slaves by their German captors.
Rosie regaled us with stories of her teenage years spent working in retail at Harrods, back in the day when the store closed at noon on Saturdays for the duration of the weekend and store employees took pets home from the famed Pet Shop, to look after them during the off-hours. “Of course in those days,’ Rosie recounted dreamily, “you could order a lion, or a zebra, from the Pet Shop at Harrods.” And the employee who, upon retirement, simply moved himself and various items from the beautiful Harrods collections into the tunnels underground where inventory was stored! He was discovered years later, only because the puppy he’d “borrowed” from the Pet Shop was whining! We all think she should write down her memories and make a mint.
Dinner was superb, of course, fragrant with the sticky aroma of rosemary-scented pork and the little potatoes tossed with lashings of butter and chopped parsley. And cumin and cauliflower? A match made in heaven. What a festive evening.
In honor of the Royal Princess, Rosie served her Pink Marshmallow School Pudding, a favorite of her daughter’s from childhood. It was strangely wonderful.
The mammoth task of cleaning up the kitchen was enlivened by the window’s threat to come off its hinges. Thank goodness for two strong men.
To bed with visions of pork belly dancing in my head…
And of course first thing in the morning, Sam set the two little chickens to roasting, and a rich risotto of carrot to simmering. We watched the very limited but still addictive coverage of the Royal Princess’s arrival, and pored over the newspapers that Orlando had kindly brought back for “you females.”
“I have never in my LIFE heard such oohing and gurgling and blooey hooey [incomprehensible male imitations of female blithering] as is coming from you females at this moment!”
She is a very cute baby, now known to all of course as Charlotte Elizabeth Diana (surely the ultimate in clever compromises that ever a baby name was), Her Highness Princess Charlotte of Cambridge. How lovely.
Orlando and Sam concocted the risotto.
I was allowed to grate the cheese, to the accompaniment of Orlando’s experimenting with various Devon-ish pronunciations of “butterrrr” and “Parrrrmesan” in what we took to be the local accent, from our adventures in Ilfracombe the day before.
We sat down – I with scant appetite, since I’d already somehow eaten all four roasted chicken wings, but massive enthusiasm — for our chicken risotto lunch.
At this luncheon, further discussion ensued about the differences between English and American. “Why do you say ‘hotchpotch’ and we say “hodgepodge’?” I wondered. “And why do you say ‘titbit’ and we say “tidbit’? Probably because Americans can’t say anything to do with ‘tit’ without laughing.” Orlando scolded me several for – I think the term was – “nosing” the chocolate mousse. That is, I sliced off the corner of the loaf, to give myself the tiny portion I wanted, just a taste. “That is completely unacceptable, especially in France, to do to a cheese, especially. The proper treatment is to take a portion that leaves the original serving in the same SHAPE, just a smaller size.” I think I was similarly taken to task about this years ago by my friend Vincent, on exactly the subject of cheese, so I had better take note.
And it was time to go home. As usual far too soon, it was time to leave my glorious friends who never tire of talking about food, who match me in my endless enthusiasm for discussing recipes and methods, choices and menus. And above all, who strike such an unusual note of friendship: seven people who look forward all year long to just a few days together — warmth, honesty, inspiration, laughter, intelligence, and culinary delights.
I sat in the darling little train from Barnstaple, watching the gorgeous Devon countryside speed by, thinking of the fun we had had.
Until GNIM 2016…
You know how much I dislike change!
And yet I simply can’t seem to stop nearly every aspect of my life from undergoing just such.
When we moved into this house less than two years ago, we expected we’d be able to extend our lease right up until our eventual house — the massive project at Potters Fields! — would be finished. Of course that sort of stability, for our nomadish family, was far too much to ask. We found out straightaway that our landlord, buried in the sands of Bermuda, would want the house back as soon as our two-year lease was up. Which would have put moving date right during the month of Avery’s all-important final exams. Because, believe it or not, her seven years at the school we’ve all become so attached to are nearly finished.
We immediately asked to extend the lease beyond the June exams, and thankfully, the landlord agreed. “Stay until after the holidays, if that will make things easier.” Yes, it would.
And then on our doorstep over the weekend appeared said landlord, with his adorable child by the hand and his adorable dog tied to the gate. “Now, of course I’ll understand if you want to stay on as we planned, but it turns out that staying in temporary housing is being really disruptive for my family. Could you possibly be out by November?”
And so, we find ourselves looking around at our beautiful garden with a sense of impending loss. I hate change!
My beloved wall of bookshelves will not be coming with us, to this interim house.
We’ll take just what I can’t live without, for the two or so years we’ll spend in the November house. Avery will go off to university from one home and come home for Christmas to another. Luckily she is extremely adaptable and quite used to constant change.
Of course the eventual reason for all this peripatetic activity is our dream home, and plans are proceeding apace for that. This month I swallowed my fear and went along to a most exciting meeting: coming face to face with our famous architect for the first time. “Finally,” he said, bending over my handshake. Such a feeling!
The atmosphere of the meeting was something I’ve never experienced before: being The Client. I introduced myself as “The Wife,” but I was quickly corrected. “It’s lovely to meet our second client,” the English architect said with a warm smile. He showed me the model of our eventual home.
The excitement of being The Client made up for the slight anxiety over what our home will be like. “The architecture and the view will be our decor,” John said, but I had to butt in and speak up for our art and my books, which I sincerely hope will also find a place in our rooms. “I have a feeling that today you went from having one client to having two,” I apologised to the architects. They smiled. “When you’re dealing with a couple,” Andrew said, “two is the very smallest number of clients you have, and it’s usually more.” It will all work out.
Lost Property, that absorber of so much of my time, is coming to an end. One last display of colorful, stinky lacrosse boots and their attendant sticks.
I’ve cooked my last Lost Property lunch.
The ladies gathered on a beautiful, sunny, warm April afternoon in my garden, to enjoy our unique blend of friendship, a willingness to tackle messes, our supportive conversation right down the years at the school, from the little 11-year-olds of so long ago, to the 18-year-olds some of us have now. The joy of sharing one last meal with these lovely ladies.
The funny thing is everyone saying, “What will we do without you?” and my knowing quite well from experience that life will go on perfectly smoothly without me. It will be me who misses the old days.
Thankfully I will have one mainstay: good old Home-Start! Even when I move away from delicious, familiar Barnes where I’ve had such fun, Home-Start Southwark will await me, with plenty of local families who need a bit of support, a bit of play. Something tells me it will all be different, and yet the same, when I get there.
I have to decide if I am to give up my local bellringing fun for a new start in the new neighborhood, or if I’ll make the effort and the train journey to come back here to my merry band.
As if in reminder that while things change, some stay the same, we’ve have a visit from old, dear friends from the past. Kathleen and John, parents of Avery’s best childhood friend in New York, journeyed across the pond to spend a week in London, and some of it kindly with us! They were happy to take a tour of our eventual home. It all looks quite unbelievable!
After all the dreamy talk about balconies and roof terraces, views and ceiling heights, we came home to dinner with Avery and plenty of reminiscing about our family’s long friendship. Avery came out of retirement to take a lovely photo, for us to remember.
I’ve invented a lovely new supper dish! It’s a combination of so many of my favorite things: the consistency of a Thai “larb,” fine and delicate, the vegetables of a stir-fry, the sauce of a citrusy satay sauce, the mess of eating things in parcels! John has christened it:
Minced Asian Chicken Parcels
for the filling:
1 tbsp peanut oil
4 boneless chicken breast fillets, well-trimmed
2 red bell peppers, diced
8 chestnut or button mushrooms, diced
1 small head broccoli, separated into small florets
6 cloves garlic, finely chopped
a bunch spring onions/scallions, sliced, white and green parts
for the sauce:
2-inch knob ginger, peeled
100ml/1/3 cup dark soy sauce (the dark sort really makes a difference, if you can find it, but if you can’t, regular soy sauce is fine)
100 ml/1/3 cup Japanese mirin or dry sherry
100 ml/1/3 cup clear honey
juice of 1 lime, plus zest
12 tbsps/3/4 cup creamy peanut butter
50 ml/3 tbsps sesame oil
handful cilantro/coriander leaves and stalks
for the parcels:
Bibb/Boston/Little Gem lettuce heads, separated into leaves
chopped peanuts, pinenuts or cashews (optional)
Preparation couldn’t be simpler. Put the trimmed chicken breasts — cut into manageable chunks — through either a mincer/grinder or pulse in your food processor until the texture of minced/ground beef.
Heat the peanut oil in a frying pan and then fry together the chicken and vegetables until the chicken is just cooked through. Do not overcook. Set aside in a pretty serving bowl to cool slightly.
Place all the sauce ingredients into a small food processor or blender and blend until smooth. With nice clean hands, toss the chicken and vegetables with the sauce, in your pretty bowl.
Arrange the pancakes and lettuce leaves on several easily-reached platters. Everyone can pile the chicken mixture into these little containers and top with nuts, if using. Allow plenty of napkins per person as the parcels are messy!
This dish pleased us enormously! It felt good to make something new, while everything else around us is changing too.
Isn’t this a mysterious image? Every afternoon, slightly earlier every day now as the days get longer, this design floats across the wall in our front hallway, reflected from the stained glass window in the front door. A little bit of accidental magic, every day.
No one appreciates the spring sun more than Tacy.
Except perhaps for Keechie.
I have a confession to make, one which would make my daughter sever all ties with me if she knew: I really like exam season, hers, that is. And since this is our last one, I’ll explain why: she’s home all the time, which as flying-the-nest fast approaches, is a very luxurious thing. Although I’m really not meant to distract her, it’s frightfully easy when she’s sitting with her piles of books just to mention something I wanted to ask her, her opinion about something, what she’d like for dinner. And she’s right there. Very pleasant.
Mind you, not so much for her.
What she doesn’t know about you-know-what surely cannot be worth knowing. There are over 150 events that she’s determined to remember, spanning the years on the Emerald Isle between 1798 and 1921. And now her father and I are pretty close to knowing them too, absorbing them almost accidentally as she works through ideas out loud. Where she gets the capacity for compiling all this information, the attention span for memorizing it all, not to mention the energy for thinking deeply about it all, I can’t imagine. That part of my brain was taken over long, long ago by the contents of hundreds of picture books, and is now occupied with the fourteen different types of rice in my pantry and what they could be used for.
Easter has come and gone, our last with a kid at home to get an Easter basket, I suppose. All these milestones! She was perfectly happy this year to join in.
The ritual was comforting in its familiarity — I never think we have enough eggs, John thinks we have too many, we always wish we had some white eggs, but we never do. How to keep the shells from cracking? This year, John instituted a novel “steam, don’t boil” policy, and it was effective. “What is this weird ‘gloss,’ do you think?” John asks, waving a small plastic packet we’ve found in the Easter supplies John’s mother always brings us in the summer. “Any why would anyone want to tie-dye an egg?” Food coloring is good, too.
Some of the creations had a distinctly intellectual flair. Green for Ireland!
I’ve spent an inordinate amount of time with Home-Start lately, having volunteered to cater their 20th Anniversary/Easter party last week. When I was asked to volunteer at the party, to coax the 30 children and 40 parents attending to introduce themselves, play nicely, share, it was but the work of a moment to offer to cook the lunch. Why on earth should Home-Start spend a penny of their tiny budget (decreasing dramatically, no doubt, with an unfavorable — to my interests — General Election result next month) on rubbishy brought-in tuna sandwiches and crisps, when I could donate the food myself? I actually had fun, cooking for 70. I’ve never cooked so many chicken wings or devilled eggs (from our Easter eggs!) in my life, not to mention sandwiches. Don’t these look as good as a sandwich shop could offer?
The party itself was a delight (once I got over the stress of the satnav not getting the destination right and John rightfully annoyed with me for wasting his time at the wheel of the car). I saw lots of children from a playgroup I’d volunteered at years ago, and my, they’ve grown, and thrived, as have their parents. Whole families kept whole because one volunteer spent three hours a week with them, for a year. What an irreplaceable institution Home-Start is.
We got a huge boost last month when the quite-pregnant Duchess of Cambridge stopped by a children’s centre to hear what we do. How cool, to see her sitting under one of our logos! I think she needs a volunteer, don’t you? It’s stressful having two children under two, no matter who you are.
Finally, in the last few weeks, I’ve had the emotional wherewithal to start to think of cooking something new! I think the cookbook’s reality overwhelmed any creative instincts I might have had, for months and months. But inspired by a visit to a phenomenal restaurant, Rabbit, with my friend Sue, I succumbed to a long temptation.
Rabbit, Three Ways: Rillettes, Loins and Liver Parfait
(serves 3 as appetizers or a light lunch)
1 rabbit, jointed (I learned how at my butchers on the spot)
for the confit legs for rillettes:
1 cup white wine
1/s cup goose or duck fat
4 bay leaves
sea salt and fresh black pepper
for the loins:
2 tbsps butter
sea salt and fresh black pepper
for the liver parfait:
2 tbsps butter
1/2 small shallot, minced
2 tsps brandy
2 tbsps double/heavy cream, or to attain proper texture
sea salt and fresh black pepper
For the rillettes: In a frying pan, heat the wine and fat together until fat melts, then add the bay leaves and salt and pepper. Place the rabbit legs in this mixture and cook over a very low heat, the liquid just simmering, for 3 hours. Remove the legs and allow to cool so you can handle them, then shred the meat off the bones and mix with just enough of the hot cooking liquid to attain a nice juicy texture. Set aside and season if necessary.
For the loins: Just before you want to eat, melt the butter in a frying pan and fry the loins until just cooked, perhaps 4–5 minutes, turning frequently. Season and set aside to rest for a minute before serving.
For the parfait: In the frying pan from the loins, melt the additional butter and add the rabbit liver, seasoning generously. Cook until just pink, perhaps 3 minutes, turning twice. Place the liver in a small food processor and pour in the cooking butter. Add the shallot, brandy, Tabasco and cream and process until very smooth. Season to taste and serve either at room temperature or chilled.
This was a stunning platter of food. Delicate, juicy, savoury, and with such delightfully different textures in each dish. My only concern was that the rabbit available here in London is nearly exclusively farmed rabbit, which eliminates the main reasons to eat rabbit: it’s a pest, and there are far too many of them, and they’re free (or at least very cheap). My rabbit cost £12, about $18, and while that’s not too bad for a meaty meal for three, it’s not a bargain by any means. But delicious? Yes.
And because Avery’s increasingly interested in eating less meat and more vegetables, last week I experimented with an old-fashioned choice, to wonderfully tasty results.
2 lbs chestnut, baby Portobello or white mushrooms
3 tbsps butter
1 white onion, minced
6 cloves garlic, minced
sprinkling of paprika
8 stems fresh thyme, leaves only picked
3 tbsps Madeira or Marsala
1 cup/250 ml sour cream
noodles or steamed rice to serve
Quarter or otherwise cut the mushrooms into bite-size pieces.
Melt the butter and add the mushrooms, onion, garlic, paprika and thyme. Saute until the mushrooms are softened, then add the wine and sizzle for 30 seconds. Add the sour cream and warm through. Serve with noodles or rice as you like.
Such a treat! We grilled chicken breasts and served them in thick-cut slices alongside, but they were certainly not necessary to provide a rich, satisfying, savoury dish.
I’ve needed as much energy as possible because there’s been a lot of bell-ringing. I wish I could convey to you the intense camaraderie, the community spirit, the sheer FUN we all have together. The silly ringing jokes that wouldn’t make sense to a normal person, the acknowledgement of the scaryness of the sport/musical instrument we all love so much.
There is also a beautiful spirituality –whether we’re religious or not — in the churchly nature of our surroundings: the baptismal font at Chiswick, and its mausolea in our ringing chamber, the lovely leaded glass windows at Barnes, the putto framed by our ropes.
And on Good Friday, I rang for the first time at St Mary the Virgin, Mortlake, just up the street from our house. What an unexpected gem, nestled just on the High Street.
The doorway of the church — which was moved stone by stone from the banks of the Thames during flooding in Victorian times! — is guarded by this solemn fellow.
This lovely window greeted us in the foyer.
We rang half-muffled, as befits a funeral service. How warmly we visitors from Barnes were welcomed! And we made their five ringers into eight, which is an immensely satisfying feeling. It wouldn’t have been an octave without us.
Our own Sunday service ringing at St Mary’s, Barnes, was greatly enhanced by the Easter bunny’s delivery of some choice chocolate eggs. Bell-ringing joke alert: “That was a very nice Plain Egg Hunt.”
No Easter would be complete without a visit from Henrietta, the ceremonial donkey who travels in each year from her farm in the countryside, to underscore the completely charming and daft approach of the English to religious affairs and animals. Dear Richard the Vicar takes his responsibilities very seriously.
Spring on the Thames, in our part of the world, means The Boat Race, of course, that classic competition between Oxford and Cambridge. It’s often the scene of high drama, as in several years ago when a man protesting the poshness of life in general dived in, to the consternation and danger of everyone involved. This year there was no such drama, just the fun of being at Elizabeth’s house on the banks of the river, eating her special roasted baby courgettes and butternut squash, sipping Prosecco, feeling our special affinity this year for Oxford — who won both their men’s and women’s races.
For the first time ever, the women shared the race day with the men, and the same stretch of river. Feminism prevailed!
At the end of the day, with the crowds dispersed and the sun setting, the kids went out to sit on the river wall and enjoy a few more moment’s respite from their studies. We grownups watched from the window upstairs, feeling a combination of pride and melancholy that we’re all too familiar with, these days. How different life will be in a year’s time for us all. Scattered to the winds, without the comforts of old friends, of home, of traditions. I know that new traditions and circles will be set in place. They always are. But for that Saturday afternoon, we revelled in the familiar, Spring in London, and all was right with the world.
What a funny week it’s been! A sort of glimpse into the future when Avery’s not living here anymore, in fact. I’ll explain.
We’ve been to Zurich, just the two of us, John and I, for a whirlwind, exhausting, exciting, expensive, delicious two days and two nights. What a thrill just to hop on a plane, and 90 minutes later land in Switzerland, a night flight, so that our walk to the hotel from the airport was a glorious tour of the darkened, but glittery, great city.
I can’t remember the last time I was in a proper hotel — a desperately awful motel at JFK the night before a flight does not count! This one, the Hotel Helmhaus in the very centre of the city, was quite, quite perfect, with gorgeous white sheets and a chocolately soft throw, a gorgeous bathroom and fantastically helpful staff. A total luxury, a birthday gift from my mother. What an escape.
In the morning, we headed out to explore our neighborhood, dominated by the massive Grossmunster church.
The doors are decorated in a kind of 20th century reference to the Baroque doors by Ghiberti in Florence, these distinctively childlike depictions by the great Otto Munch.
And the views from the top of the tower? (We puffed.) Simply glorious.
John looked so happy, sitting by a little interior window, catching his breath.
Then we meandered over to the intensely beautiful Fraumunster Church, home to a collection of the most sublime stained glass windows by Marc Chagall. How I wish I could have taken pictures of these glowing, lively, celebratory windows, but such is not allowed. You must look online at how stunning they are, impossibly colorful and happy, despite the obviously complex messages within.
Nothing was ordinary.
What a joy to see something new.
A gurgle of water, but extraordinary.
And everywhere messages that I could not read. How frustrating to be such a failure at German, as it happens.
And can I just tell you how obsessed Zurich is with Easter? A veritable riot of chocolate, bunnies, and chocolate bunnies, this one from the famous chocolatier Sprungli (we may have done a bit of work for the Easter Bunny here).
Everywhere were displays, and not just candy or flowers, but whole installations, this one of tiny, delicate tin animals, out for a day in the country.
I couldn’t help myself: I went inside and found a tiny Steiff hedghog for Avery, and an unexpected display of Christmas ornaments. My choices are packed away carefully for December, now, having been brought home in hand luggage.
There was a nunnery.
And then we arrived at our destination, the purpose of this whole Swiss adventure: a visit to the Tamedia building, a seemingly simple newspaper office in the centre of the city. Designed by the architect who’s going to be building our dream house, on our small plot of land. At first it was hard to imagine what this building could possibly have in common with a family home.
Inside, however, the magic was instantly visible.
What seemed at first glance to be merely a beautiful office building revealed, gradually, details of absolute genius. The supporting columns made of laminated spruce, the unexpected floor of polished Swiss river stones.
The lobby is furnished with chairs and tables using the recycled paper tubes that our architect is famous for: he’s built entire villages to benefit refugees of environmental disasters, using these tubes.
They are incredibly stylish. And such good, good things. Maybe he will build some for us.
I feel really excited, hopeful, for the first time, about our eventual house. With the warmth of the spruce, the inventiveness of the floors, the civic-mindedness and yet sheer beauty of the furnishings, I can really see this building translated into a proper home: gorgeous but welcoming, and a perfect backdrop for our books, and art, brought out of storage at long last. Our guide seemed very happy at our happiness.
And John was just absolutely thrilled.
Sigh of relief, and of expectation.
We said our goodbyes and went directly to a Vietnamese restaurant we had spied on our way to Tamedia, Saigon.
I ended up with a beautiful plate of green curried chicken with bamboo shoots, SUPER hot peppers and a creamy coconut milk sauce, heaven. John had noodles for which he was offered, mercifully, a bib, to protect his snowy white shirt. We ate ourselves silly, then meandered home to the hotel to put our feet up for just a bit. Except that of course I’d left my phone at the restaurant, so with misgivings John gave me his, pointed me to Google maps, and said goodbye as if he’d never see me again.
I had fun, taking more pictures.
I found the only bookshelf in the world I didn’t want to bring home.
Who lives down these little streets, in perfect Swiss style? I want to, someday.
When I returned, safe and sound, we went back out, into the slightly sprinkly, damp afternoon, to explore again.
I bought new shoes, gorgeous Thierry Rabotin classic laceups, and also a nice springy pair of loafers. Shoe shopping is always a winner. We passed the famous Cabaret Voltaire, unbelievably still in business just shy of 100 years after its formation as the home of Dadaism. Shades of my art historical youth!
After a most welcome cocktail back at the hotel, we headed out in the rain, by romantic tram, to dinner, at Stefs, a restaurant John had chosen because all the most glowing reviews online were… written in German. A present from John’s mom for his birthday, this was a much-awaited event because as you know, we NEVER go out for dinner. I go to lunch with friends, we occasionally go to lunch together, but dinner? Out? Just the two of us? Never. It was an epic meal.
Our maitre d’ explained the menu to us, pointing out in perfect, beautifully accented English that all the produce, most especially the meat, comes from their farm in the Swiss countryside. “We call the meat, how do you say, ‘lucky meat.’ This is why it tastes so very good. It has been a lucky life, for these meats.”
We began with a very modern (and lucky) steak tartare, served with the requisite hard-boiled, grated quail’s yolk, but then most fusion-y with a harissa cream and tiny leaves of baby chicory (I had to ask), and a spoonful of rich, caramelised onion relish. Perfectly textured steak in a portion that left us wanting more, shades of our Prague adventure last year. Then onto what was described to us as a curry soup, but was OH so much more than that. A gentle, delicate, subtly flavored creamy broth (more coconut milk, twice in one day!) with, floating demurely, tiny slivers of exotic mushrooms, carrots and celeriac. How I wish I could make such a thing. Again, we clamored for more.
And then a main course of pork fillet, with a smooth, tender texture we’d never quite experienced before, with quenelles of creamy mashed potato and two perfectly cooked stalks of asparagus, all with a morel mushroom sauce (our only complaint was that we wanted more sauce, but we could be simply greedy). Dessert was a more elegant version of something I might make: a mango yogurt with a surprise of chocolate ice cream buried inside, topped with a crumble. Simple and much homelier than the three savoury courses, leading me to suspect that the chef has about as much interest in posh desserts as I have: very little. A lovely end to a quite perfect meal.
But it wasn’t the end! Because I had asked so dag-nabbit many questions during the meal, the lovely maitre d’ , Meinrad Schlatter, fetched the chef! And I was able to shake the hand of the man who had provided us with such a magical parade of flavors. Stefan Wieser, a genius plain and simple.
What a cook. What a kitchen! “I see you cook with gas,” I said, with a sly glance toward my husband who aspires to more technological methods of applying heat to food. “Oh, yes, always with the gas,” Stef assured me. Thank you.
We talked about the meal all the way home — the ambience of the small restaurant (seating just 20 or so people, and we the only non-Swiss as far as we could tell), the simplicity of the menu. Perhaps I could have a small restaurant if I could limit the choices to just a few. We had the tasting menu, but there were only three more dishes on offer, plus Meinrad’s special cheese board (I was tempted, but even I have my limits).
What heaven to fall into the bed — made up perfectly by NOT ME — with a book and a digestif, looking around the elegant room, feeling a little bit of the me I was before I was a mother, creep back into my bones. Maybe, just maybe, there is life after the child flies the nest.
In the morning we had nothing special planned — and who needs anything more special than the day before had been ! — so after a spectacular scrambled egg breakfast at the Helmhaus (why are foreign cold cuts so much more splendid than anything you can get at home?), we ambled out and off on the tram to take a look at Lake Zurich. Most fascinating to me was this tiny, public water park. Can you imagine an American lake daring to offer such an array of unprotected, fantastically dangerous-looking water features, for anyone to use in ignorance and then sue someone for? Charming!
Every bit of this climbing structure stretches over concrete surfaces just begging to have a head crack upon them. And diving boards! Even private HOTELS in America have jettisoned them all, in fear of lawsuits. What a shame. These looked very inviting.
Well, perhaps not on that very day.
Fancy a slide?
The whole place seemed to me emblematic of the Zurich frame of mind: simple beauty everywhere and an effortless sense of style, as well as a calm, peaceful enjoyment of life. I could just imagine the scene on a hot summer day, perfect little Swiss children running sedately to and fro, while their gorgeously fashionable and eminently calm parents looked on. Munching on Swiss chocolate, no doubt, and congratulating themselves on their determined and peaceful neutrality. If there is something not to like about life in Switzerland, we didn’t see it on our trip to Zurich.
We popped on the tram again to try to find what was billed as the “Shoreditch of Zurich,” that is to say the sort of hipster neighborhood. We didn’t find it, but I did stumble across this gorgeous food shop, Bascher, causing literally the only moment of the entire trip when I wished I had a kitchen. Oh, the fresh meats and cheeses, the glorious profusion of pastas, dried mushrooms, preserved meats. I did bring home some preserved Swiss pastrami-like beef, but that only tormented me for more.
We whiled away the afternoon aimlessly, just enjoying each other’s company and the foreign sights to behold on every corner.
Finally it was time to go home. We slipped into the lounge at the airport to indulge in a little pile of brown bread sandwiches, featuring — again — the simplest of ingredients, but the best: Swiss cheeses, little pickles, little local salamis. And home to Avery.
Who promptly left for Dublin on a school trip! We barely overlapped, which means on top of our Zurich sojourn without her, we also had four days at home without her. I’m getting used to it. But I myself took off on Saturday morning on a quixotic journey by train to Bath, to have lunch with my friend Sam and then — the purpose of the adventure — to meet up with my beautiful friend Laurie’s handsome son Christian, here all the way from South Africa to… play hockey. I can’t make this stuff up. He gallantly risked embarrassment in front of his mates to pose for a photograph with me, which gave his mother, so far away, immense pleasure.
Christian and his mother had been our guests, you’ll remember, five years and one house ago, for a memorable, fun-filled visit. Now, so much older, more mature, and TALLER, Christian hasn’t really changed a bit. Still with gorgeous manners, a ready smile, and a zest for life. Laurie should be terribly proud. “I hear congratulations are in order,” he said with unbelievable poise. “Avery is off to Oxford, well done!” What a wonderful boy.
After all, the point of all this parenthood is to set them free, isn’t it — whether to Dublin or to Bath — to watch them pack up their suitcases and their experience and set off on their own. It’s a bit like that old story of bringing a pot of water to boil with a frog in it: the boiling process happens so gradually that he’s cooked before he knows it. Of course it seems like five minutes ago that Avery was 13, that Christian was 10, days when their flying off for their own adventures would have been unthinkable. But it happens. And if John’s and my life over the last week is any indication, the future looks bright for all of us.
Until today, I would have said that the English air held an unmistakable warmth of spring. Then I got onto my bike for yoga and positively froze this morning! But a beautiful, crisp day, reminiscent of Saturday’s “Women’s Head of the River Race” on the Thames. Fourth from the left in this photo is the divine Sarah Weaver, in from Cambridge, our houseguest from the evening before. We screamed ourselves silly when she went by. We felt very cool to know someone in the race, and sat with our coffee on the river’s edge, watching the spectacle.
It’s just lovely living so near to the Thames. Someday I will succeed in getting a photograph of the river rolling by outside my bedroom window. In the meantime, all I can do is assure you how hypnotic it is, with the lights glittering over the tidal movement.
Spring, however chilly, has been delicious. I could not have predicted how relaxing it would be to enjoy Life After Cookbook, picking up the threads of my social existence that had been put rather on hold in favor of things like acquiring ISBNs, import licences, writing an index, mailing hundreds of books. We’ve had time to enjoy the frequent visits of dear Cressie, the neighbor cat who defines “fluff.”
Cressie appears in the garden, meowing silently outside the glass door, desperate for some love. Of course, neighborhood opinion is divided between those of us who think of her as Cressie and those of us who think of her as Oscar. It’s not important.
Last week I meandered into Bloomsbury to meet my friend Jen at the phenomenally delicious Honey and Co., brainchild of Sarit Packer and Itamar Srulovich, Middle Eastern chefs extraordinaire. We sat down to the crunchiest cinnamon-flecked, sesame-covered falafel to start, and progressed to a sort of lamb and cauliflower shepherd’s pie with a yogurt and sesame crust. But the star of the lunch was the fresh, grilled sardines, my first ever. Stuffed with herbs and intensely lemony, these small fishes were a revelation. We ate every single bit.
Jen is the ultimate food-loving lunch companion, matching me for obsessiveness bite for bite. We take forever over every dish, analyzing ingredients, combinations of flavors, textures. It’s a great deal of fun, for us (and it means no one else has to put up with us).
I popped into this incredible bookstore on the way home. My theatre-loving friends and family would simply be in heaven, being able to do that.
Simply shelf after shelf of dear Shakespeare.
Why not come home with chocolate bars named for Shakespearean heroines? Truly clever to have the sea salt chocolate named for Miranda, don’t you think?
From that sublime afternoon, it was wonderful to get on the cosy local Southwest train the next day to visit my friend Catherine — in from Philadelphia again, just a month after she was here for my book launch! She was in town to look after her nephews, two of the sweetest boys on the planet. Together with Catherine’s daughter Mimi, we wore those little boys out building train tracks, running to the park. Mimi displayed her squirrel-like climbing skills.
Artie watched in adoring astonishment.
Catherine and I sat peaceably by, secure in the knowledge that we were no longer expected to climb, run, jump or slide. We wondered to each other if we had been able to appreciate our own children as effortlessly as we’re able to enjoy other people’s now, with relaxation and simple enjoyment. Why did we spend so much time in those days planning for what came next — the next nap, meal, activity — instead of revelling in the moment. At least now we’re able to enjoy each other unfettered.
When I succeed in making Catherine’s delectable dark chocolate coconut bars, I will let you know.
On the way home we took time to note the very strict neighborhood dog-walking strictures. Otis is indignant that anyone thinks four dogs are an appropriate limit.
I left their cosy, boyish household, feeling quite envious. The best thing to do was to distract myself with another girly lunch, this time with my boon companion Sue, recent Elf at my birthday bash. I met her in Sloane Square, surely one of the richest atmospheres in the world. For a brief moment, it was fun and luxurious to be surrounded with so many rich-looking people, such beautiful architecture, so many shops filled with beautiful things.
I bought some satin shorts for Avery and gorgeous leggings for myself at my new favorite shop, Club Monaco. Just a treat. What fun for someone who is a rubbish shopper, as a rule.
On to lunch! This time at Rabbit, a sister restaurant to the immensely popular Shed, with the same ethos of extreme seasonality — as in weekly! — and foraging. Three brothers run the vineyard, farm and kitchen of the restaurant, while the father wrote the text for their gorgeous cookbook. And how we ate! You can order little tiny dishes called, appropriately “mouthfuls,” for £1.50, and we took full advantage: endive with goats cheese and pomegranate jam, rabbit rillettes on tiny cheese crackers. Then we proceeded to duck liver tempura, beetroot-cured trout with caviar and shaved beets, veal “stogies,” which were a fabulous concoction of shredded confit meat wrapped in wontons and deep-fried. Heaven! So inspiring.
What fun to sit with a dear friend, savoring unlikely and inventive flavors, solving the world’s problems, then to come home to cook dinner myself, something intensely savory and comforting. This is a variation of the veal chops recipe in our cookbook. It’s also very good with chicken, and with even more mushrooms and a vegetable stock, could easily be a marvellous vegetarian dish.
Pork Tenderloin in a Creamy Mushroom and Madeira sauce
(serves 4 with leftovers)
2 tbsps butter
2 tbsps olive oil
sea salt and fresh black pepper
2 small pork tenderloins, completely trimmed of fat and gristle
6 cloves garlic, finely chopped
8 leaves sage, roughly chopped
1 shallot, finely minced
1 dozen mushrooms, thickly sliced
1 tbsp flour
more butter if needed
1 1/2 cup/375ml beef stock
good splash Madeira or Marsala
1/2 cup/ 118 ml creme fraiche or sour cream
Heat the butter and oil together in a large frying pan with the salt and pepper until they stop foaming, then fry the tenderloins about 2 minutes per side so they get nicely browned. Remove to a plate, then fry the garlic, sage, shallots and mushrooms until soft. Remove to the plate with the pork, taking care to leave as much of the butter and oil behind as possible. Sprinkle the flour onto this fat, adding more butter if needed to make a stiff paste. Whisk in the beef stock and Madeira until the sauce is thickened, then add the creme fraiche and whisk well. Put the pork and mushrooms, along with any juices left on the plate, back into the frying pan and simmer in the sauce until the pork is cooked through. This will take between 10–20 minutes depending on the thickness of the tenderloin. When cooked, turn off the heat and remove the pork from the frying pan and slice into thick slices, then return them to the sauce and heat through. Serve with rice or mashed potatoes.
This dish is delightfully comforting. Perfect for winter, or for spring that is acting like winter a bit past its prime.
I spent a beautiful lunch with my friend Claire and her two boys, watching them devour my smoked and roasted salmon mousse, little slices of those French crispy toasts, radishes, butter and salt. Claire and I discussed whether or not I, as a foreigner, should begin using British words in order to fit in. Something in me balks — as if it would be fake — at using terms like “mate,” “bloke,” or “blimey.” “Oh, blimey’s one of my favorites,” Claire laughed, but then it can be, she’s got the most sublime Belfast accent. But me? I’d feel like a fake. When she uses words like “sarky,” which I thought meant “snarky” but turns out to be an abbreviation of “sarcastic,” I just wish, wish to be Northern Irish.
“What does ‘mardy’ mean?” I asked.
“Now that, I don’t know,” she said. It turns out to mean “grumpy” or “moody,” so it seems a very useful word to know, especially if I travel to the North where it is common usage.
Before I left, it seemed like a very good idea to put the babies into my bag. They seemed to enjoy it. Freddie first…
I don’t know who enjoyed it more, the babies or Claire and me. You simply cannot have a care in the world when these two boys are around!
March has been very good to me, here in our London lives. As much as Avery’s life, lately, is a combination of stressful and boring (exam preparations), I selfishly enjoy these weeks when she spends a lot of time at home, curled up on the sofa with piles of notes and books, entertaining things to read about Ireland and Phillip II aloud to us, questions to ask. It is terribly hard to believe that next year, her spot on the sofa will be empty. It’s important to enjoy every cosy moment, however incomprehensible are many of the things that she reads aloud. I finally do understand “Ulsterisation,” but it took awhile.
Next week will see us in Zurich for a short architectural tour, so watch this space. Will it be delicious? I will let you know.